It is common knowledge that sometimes pride and relationships clash with one another. Pride makes you who you are and it is definitely necessary in relationships. But the kicker is that at a certain point in the relationship, it has to become less about your own pride and more about your love for your significant other. As Kim points out in her post, (which I took a liking to specifically because it was written from the female point of view) pride is very important in the early stages of a relationship.
While obviously she took a female perspective on the matter, I would like to show some of the realistic pride issues for college males in a relationship. I feel the need to point out that a lot of relationships for men consist of swallowing their pride; we very usually have to make the first moves and put ourselves out there. But hey, it comes with the territory and we have to live with it.
First and most importantly, pride has to apparent from the very first appearance in front of your girl. In other words, try to take care of yourselves guys. If we expect our woman to be done up and if we are going to hold them up to that standard then we should show them the same courtesy. We should be proud of the way we look and represent our lucky ladies. Making a good first impression in front of the potential significant other never hurts either!
Secondly, although it may be frustrating for some guys, we have to contact our lady first. Put yourself out there and make a move, you never know what could happen. After you get her number then it is up to you to send the first text. Now everyone has their own waiting period rule (how many days to wait before contacting someone) and to me, it doesn’t really matter how long as long as you do it sometime within a week or so. I mean you wouldn’t want her to simply not remember you. That would be the ultimate hole in the road. My relationship has been pretty well documented throughout this blog and I would like to confirm, call it practicing what I preach, that I did contact my current girlfriend first all the way back in our senior year of high school. We have to light the fire somehow right guys?
Lastly, one of the bigger factors of pride is simply showing your potential significant other that you are proud to have them. Hold her hand and do the little things to show her that you care. Sometimes little things in a relationship can get overlooked and disregarded but they mean a lot to her and they definitely add up!
Until next time,