Dating classmates is a difficult situation to work around at times. On one hand, it can be a very intriguing idea. Having a special someone close at all times and always being in comfortable place in a sense can be appealing and understandably desired. There is also the possibility that when classes are skipped, the significant other can take notes and make it so the topics that were covered in class are understood.
But on the other hand, people around the ages of 18-24 typically also enjoy their freedoms. College students do not want to be tied down more times than not and constantly having a significant other around, including through classes, may not be the ideal situation.
Portland area college students have spoken and the results are mixed. Both sides have their perks and both sides have their cons in comparison to each other and the following quotes make that apparent.
Ryan Kirven, a UP sophomore who has dated classmates in past relationships, said “I think it is a horrible idea. It is one thing to have to see your significant other all the time outside of class but it is another to decide to correlate schedules and share the same classes. People need space and some time on their own to do some thinking and focus on getting work done. For me, it was hard to manage it all.”
“In terms of being able to share work though, that was a nice bonus. We were both capable students so we were really able to help each other out,” Kirven added.
India Hubbard, a Linfield junior Nursing student who also has experience in this topic, said “It goes both ways. Sometimes you head into class being a little flustered and seeing him there was really helpful. But other times, it might have been beneficial to have a little break. I don’t regret it though, you live and you learn.”
Time is a very precious commodity for college students today. Priorities have to be set so time can be used accordingly. Clearly for some people, having enough time to themselves takes priority over sharing classes and potentially having someone to help out with any course work that may be confusing.
Sarah Silber, a UP Nursing student who has also been in a relationship with a classmate in the past, had an opposite experience to that of Kirven’s.
Silber said “I enjoyed always having him around in class. We only had one elective course together and it was a nice change to have a significant other around in a class. He was able to help me out and clear things up when I needed it and it was also really nice to be able to see him in a different setting, I felt like it helped me understand him a little better. ”
The experiences have varied but the verdict is still out. Dating classmates can be tough and uncomfortable but having someone to help out in class is an undeniable perk.